Is she seeing someone else?

Think again if you believe that only campus women worry continuously about other campus chicks their boyfriends could be seeing. Guys frequently worry about having their girlfriends shared with other men, which is a common dread among campus men. It’s a popular belief that ladies are egotistical and dislike sharing their guys with other women. But when it comes to other guys viewing their woman, males are incredibly egotistical and extremely envious.

When a woman realizes a man is playing her, she is typically allowed to overreact and act in every crazy way. In reality, it is very acceptable for a woman to search through her boyfriend’s or husband’s ( We will talk about phone for any suspicious calls or messages. It’s appropriate to control the men’s improper behavior by performing the time-honored tradition of searching inside his jacket for money.

When a woman finds out, she has several of alternatives for getting the male to wake up. She can call the other woman and threaten to brutally beat her. As the majority of “clandes” have become quite defiant, this is not particularly successful. She can damage his flat-screen television in his living room. Occasionally, when he doesn’t provide a solution to the terrifying query, “who is she?” cell phones are destroyed in front of the man. That is really justifiable and feminine.

The situation is very different for guys. They are unable to approach the problem in a feminine manner. You have few options if you learn that she is dating someone else. When you consider your options, drop her like she’s hot or just swallow it. Even though one makes every effort to communicate it publicly, it is seen as a sign of weakness.

So you’re having a quiet conversation and sipping on some expensive rum while seated in one of the more upscale restaurants. You’re doing your best to impress her with what you think is an educated conversation, but the calls appear to be flowing in at an alarming rate on her phone. She takes them and even more annoyingly, she nonchalantly lies into the phone as though it were second nature to her.

She isn’t lying in your favor; of that you are very certain. She’s probably attempting to balance all the males she has in her life. While you truly want to, you are unable to tell her to turn off the phone. You wish she could concentrate, but she isn’t even trying. Even though she is stunning, you can’t help but feel nervous about the situation. What would she be considering at that very moment? In any case, you must act appropriately since you are a man. Hold your head high. Pretend you are the only male she has ever known.

Truth be said, men of various types exist in the lives of campus beauties; Eddy wa rent, Jonte wa road trips and Brayo wa Shopping. Thus, as a guy in Uni, you must understand your place in her life. It can be traumatic if you have a lowly status in her life. Please trust me. Campus chicks ability to act indifferent only makes issues more challenging. Women have an illogical ability to stroke our egos and make us believe we are the one.

But be clear-eyed. There will always be that paralyzing fear of insecurity if she is seeing someone. You have no idea what she does in her free time. Every time you phone her and she doesn’t answer, all kinds of strange ideas could run through your head. You never know what she will be up to when she visits a distant city. Especially Eldoret.  If she notices that you are acting suspiciously, she might ask you to quit acting childish.

I’ve learned that if you don’t want to worry about her all the time, just find an averagely beautiful woman. Some ladies are simply too attractive, and you can be sure that they will be pursued relentlessly until they give in. Not that there aren’t any attractive, faithful women out there. Nonetheless, there is a lot of competition when a lady is attractive.

Regrettably, there is always a man out there who is more attractive, intellectual, and wealthy than you. It’s unfortunate because they’ll kill your woman when they go after her.

She won’t abandon you, but you’ll be aware of your downgrading. Nobody has ever claimed that fairness in life is a given.

Author: Duke Nyankabaria

I am a writer; my heart tells me so. you know, a writer at heart. That is true. My tale goes further than that. For instance, I have previously written for Kenya's leading newspaper, Nation. Africa on diverse topics such as environment, education, creative stories, lifestyle and literary criticism. Also I contributed to Kenya's Media Max Paper, People's Daily, where with my insightful analysis, I kept readers informed. My tale does not finish there. It travels along crossroads and into alleys.